Easy Way to Start Dating
Dating is a great way to meet potential partners and have a good time with new people, but it is daunting to start dating. Remember, however, that dating does not have to be stressful. It is supposed to be fun and adventurous, and if you keep an open mind and stay patient you’ll be meeting new dates in no time.
Life isn’t like a fairytale — you can’t just kiss a frog to find your perfect match (read: make out with a bunch of bad kissers and hopefully find your other half). Reality doesn’t mirror a Cinderella story, so how can you start dating if you want to be in a successful relationship?
Figuring out what you want in a partner is hard enough and trying to find that person is even harder. It’s even more difficult to find a significant other in this day and age. I mean, you’re more likely to walk into a Starbucks and see people glued to their computers or cell phones than strike up a conversation with any of them. While it might seem that meeting someone nowadays can be challenging, it’s not impossible. There are plenty of things you can do right now to make finding Mr. or Mrs. Right a bit easier.
1. Think about what you want
In order to find a good match, you need to know what a good match even means to you. What are the qualities you are looking for in a partner? As the millionaire matchmaker would say, what are your non-negotiables? I’m not saying write a list out of 50 things that you want in a potential mate, but thinking about your top 5 qualities could start you off in the right direction. Think about what you are looking for and visualize it. Oprah was a believer in doing this, and well, you can never argue with Oprah.
2. Work on yourself
I hate to get all cheesy on you all, but you need to love yourself before you can healthily love another. Therefore, if you want to be in a happy and healthy relationship, you should have a happy and healthy relationship with yourself first. If you are already there, then move on to the next step. But, if you’re thinking twice about this part, you might want to spend some more one on one time with yourself.
3. Tell everyone
4. Hang out in your places of interest
If you want to meet a person who has similar interests, go to your places of interest. If you like music, go to your local record store or get tickets for a nearby show. If you’re interested in working out, hit up the gym or try a new fitness class. Who knows, maybe your future love is waiting for you at your nearby Trader Joe’s? And yes, my place of interest is a grocery store.
5. Consider how you come across
6. Be more open to a potential match
Whenever I go shopping and I am only thinking of a specific outfit to buy, nothing else I see will please me. This is similar to dating. When you are too strict about what you are looking for, you run the risk of letting great people go. Maybe you didn’t think that the love of your life would be blonde, a little shorter than you had hoped, or was really into reality TV shows. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have specific qualities you are looking for, but you should just make sure you aren’t letting pickiness get in the way of finding someone truly amazing.
7. Be more open in your life
If you follow a structured life, have your routine down and stick to it every day, where is there any room for another person? If you are the kind of person that goes from A to B without even looking up, you might be missing a potential mate right in front of you. So say yes to a night out with your friends, or explore your city by yourself one day. You never know who’s out there on the road less traveled (by you).